There's a point where you just have to GO!
Dear Readers: I am answering to a concerned reader of an "soon to be" ex who his currently seeing someone else and still wants him to stick around. I'm not certain if he is married to her or not, however, the situation is she is getting the run around from the other guy and she needs the ex for comfort. Here's what I think:
We're women....... When we have a man wrapped around our fingers we capture his heart, and it is the easiest way to get exactly what we want, when we want it.It's like we take you through all these obstacles and challenges just to see how far you'll actually go. So, until you put your foot down and set the rules for yourself, we just keep on testing it out and hope that you won't leave us. Is this right? No! Is this fair? No! I'm going to take you through a few scenarios and the last one being what my reader is concerned about, but I want to show you exactly how it plays out.
Scenario #1- A woman and a man are dating, but the woman isn't getting too much attention from man. She doesn't see him regularly, is really into him, enjoys the time they do spend together, but somehow she feels empty because she needs more. She needs someone who she can call at anytime when she wants to talk,(Ladies: your man isn't your girlfriend, if you need to vent about stuff that is irrelevant to him call your girl) she wants someone who makes her feel beautiful and important and she needs someone who genuinely cares about her. So, if you are lacking in this area for her, she will find it where she knows she will find it. She knows that the other stuff you were giving her that doesn't involve an emotional attachment is there and if she calls you'll give it to her, so why does she need to pretend to care about you, if you've made it clear that it's nothing more. In the end it's a lack of communication and the mans part. Why? Because you failed to tell her what you wanted, so she is going to play you like a puppet until she can figure you out.
Scenario #2- The bad guy who is no good for her is what she needs. A woman needs excitement, someone who will keep her on her toes. If you're too predictable she's lost all interest in keeping you interested. I know it's easy to love a girl who you think you care about so much, but why do you want to love someone who continuously needs to second guess what she feels for you? The reason why she keeps calling you, is because she knows you'll be there.
If there is children involved, it becomes a complication. Genuinely, you don't know if she is doing it for the kids or for you. This is what you need to ask yourself..
What are her intentions?
What has she done to me?
Will she do it again?
Is she sincere when she expresses herself?
Does she only call when she is lonely?
Do I love her?
If you find yourself confused or hesitant, then follow your heart and let it go. You can't hold on to something that is only there out of convenience.
Yours Truly,
XOXO
V
