The truth is....
Unfortunately for men, women base majority of their decisions on attraction. If your sitting like Mr. Rich on the left hand side of this picture all weight careless and drinking pop or beer, looking sluggish.... We've already decided we don't like you. I know it's not fair to judge a book by its cover, but, in all actuality even if you have a rock star personality we won't give you a chance. We need to feel joy kissing you, not disgust, excited hugging you or laying next to you.
I agree that it is not "fair" to treat anyone this way, however, even for men they see women the same way. Either our hair isn't long enough, our makeup isn't bright enough, our butts are too small, our breasts don't do what they want them to or we aren't sexual enough. We live in a society where we base any type of relationship by physical appearance. Even when it comes to friendships and conversations.
My advice: Be patient. Not every girl is going to like you and not every guy is going to think your hott ladies. I am a strong believer that there is someone out there for everyone and if your heart doesn't have the patience and your in a rush to have it all, your not going to find it. Don't rush something that isn't going to work, simply wait for that girl or guy that loves spending time with you, kissing you , holding you, waits for you and is everything for you.... Not because you want them to, but because they choose to.
Also, don't come off to desperate or strong. If you start talking about marriage too quick or sex too quick they will turn the other way. Hold your ground and let things play out for themselves. It all happens in the right timing. I wish things can go back to the way they used to be when you had to be married to be courted and a woman prided herself in her purity and waited, when a man did not only see you as a sex toy but a potential wife. Treat a lady like a lady, she'll be a lady for you and respect you. No man or woman is at fault.... our generations and appreciation for life has changed. Its up to us to figure out what we really deserve.
Yours Truly,
V
xoxoxo
