There is no say as to what Mrs. Right should look like and how she should act. I remember in school we had to look at a jar of jelly beans and we had to think about how many of the red ones were in there and how many white ones there were. Somehow after spilling the jelly beans all over the table a mystery color would should up. It was rare to get that black colored one with an unknown flavor and every kid was always scared to taste it. This is how I see a man's search for a woman.
There are so many fish in the sea, you find the loose and easy girls, the over possessive analytical girls, the ones that are too afraid to be themselves and finally those who are clearly great for you but it's too hard to work for. So, Mrs. Right needs to.....
- Respect you- A woman who doesn't respect a man will do whatever she pleases, whenever she pleases and care less about anything you will ever have to say about her.
- Guide & Support you- Everyone has their north star (a goal, a mission , a reason for life), weather it be to work up to that house you want or rebuild a car you dream for. No matter the goal or how ridiculous your north star might sound to her, she should help you get there and support your beliefs.
- Trust you- If she can't trust you, she will never be a woman of kindness, generosity, love, or sincerity. Everything she does or says to you will be generic and hypothetical only so that she is secure with whatever it is she thinks your doing.
- Cater to you- I know some woman are going to flip when they read this, but in all honesty, my mom and my grandma taught me to be this way. If dinner is served, serve your boyfriend or husband, he had a bad day at work....give him a massage or listen to his rant and respond don't just say ahhaha yeah okay. Let her go the extra mile. It's a two way street nowadays, don't expect her to be your slave, but know that she possesses these caring aspects because if you're planning to get old with her you want to know she cares enough to see the minor details.
- Loves you- A woman that truly loves you, I mean really loves you will go to the end of the earth for you. Once you find that woman, don't let her go if you love her too. She will always be by your side and never let go. Be faithful to heart as well as her to yours.
Remember, nothing is easy and nothing worth having is good enough if you can't fight for it. In other words, it won't be handed to you on a silver platter. You'll have really bad days, you'll argue, you'll fight, you'll go through things that traditional couples will never make it through, but that's what makes it worth the fight. That's what makes it love and that's exactly what makes Mrs Right your Mrs Right. She will stick with you through anything as long as you love her the same. But remember you should have....
Honesty- First of all, you will never gain a woman's attention by lying to her. The only way you will ever gain and keep her interested is to make sure the first words that come out of your mouth and the things you say to her on the daily basis are both honest and sincere.
Upkeep- Woman are much more shallow the men, we will judge everything about you. Your nails, hair, smile and everything you say. So, just as much as you want us to look good when we go out with you, keep yourself up. We don't want to be around a guy that looks like he just rolled out of bed just as much as you don't want us to walk out with you in pajamas and uncombed hair.
Loyalty- A woman doesn't want to worry that her man is taking interest in another woman, respect her! Don't check out other woman bluntly in front of her. Although you think she doesn't notice she does. She probably won't say anything to not make a big deal about it, but it makes her feel insecure. You have to make her feel like she's the only and most beautiful woman in the room. Don't engage in friendships with other woman that are obviously inappropriate and misconstrued, if it makes your woman uncomfortable and you know the things your saying to your friend would upset your woman then you should probably be mindful to those things, because they catch up to you. A woman carries zero tolerence for these things.
Mrs. Right shouldn't have to feel at competition for your love and attention or feel like there's always someone else. Make her feel important and show her how much you care. We women are very tender, push us the wrong way and we will fall apart, but pay attention to the small details and we will remain that mystery color that you so anxiously always want to bite to find out how it taste.
Yours Truly,
xoxoxo
V
