Woman Vs. Porn

What Woman Do For Men, What Men Do For Porn......

  Essentially, one would assume the presence of a woman to man is a glorified blessing. Someone who can cook for you, clean for you and give you every sexual command you choose. Assuming you live together, if you don't then I'm sure the woman is always there for a man in other aspects. The approach of this blog isn't what you think it would have been by reading the title. Primarily, I wanted to argue how men abandon their women for porn, I then realized that it isn't a common occurrence that a man would do something so stupid. So, I have decided to write about what a women can do for a man and what men would do for porn. It won't be a precise outline, just a general gist of it.

A woman could...

1. Give a man emotional support.
2. Physically and sexually meet the needs of a man.
3. Provide a sense of need

Porn could...

1. Not talk back and complain
2. Show a man sexual fantasies that their women aren't spontaneous enough to try
3. Is there at a click of a button and doesn't need to be wined and dined with the company of his right hand

However, men don't love porn as much as they love women; somehow they still feel the need to refer to it in order to stimulate their attractions or prepare themselves for a woman. For reasons beyond me men will not give up porn for a woman. But a man will allow the women to leave them because they won't leave porn. Personally, ladies porn isn't that big of a deal. If anything it is benefiting you in the long run because your man is sexually stimulated and wants to release his attractions towards you. Nowadays, women watch porn more then men and are shy to admit it. If porn isn't his first choice, if he isn't cheating on you, if he isn't addicted to the point of obsession and he is satisfying you intimately, there is no need to obsess over the fact that your man watches porn. Offer to watch it with him, you might learn something. 

This day of age porn has become something that is universally accepted and advanced that it isn't something you should be ashamed of. I am not encouraging anyone to watch porn, if it isn't something you enjoy, fine. I just don't see it to be a problem if porn is an option.

A woman can't provide all the fantasies porn can, so if your relationship is getting boring and you need something to spice it up. Don't be so quick to judge. 

Yours Truly,

xoxo

V

Every Woman Needs A Man That Will Make Her Forget She Was EVER Hurt

Tired of being in love with Mr. Wrong?

I think it is officially time to recognize that looking for Mr. Right is a journey in itself. It doesn't mean that we need to give up hope. Ladies, what if you could find that one guy that makes you forget about how all the others broke your heart? Is it real? Will we ever find it?

I think many of you ladies are looking for the wrong things or are being analytically insane when searching for someone to love. It is possible and I think these are the things you should expect and the things you should run from.

What Mr. Right shouldn't do.....

Mr. Right should NEVER under zero circumstances...

1. Cheat- If he had the opportunity and took the opportunity to be with another woman then the odds are he really doesn't respect you.

2. Possessive- If his insecurities have taken over your relationship and he is controlling the decisions you make in your own life, then he will never give you a life that you will be free to be yourself.

3. Low Priorities- If he is unable to prioritize the important levels of life and prefers to be unemployed and depends on your money; you are setting yourself up with a man that you will never be able to trust and secure your life with.

4. Runaway- He should not go weeks without contacting you, he should not have control over your time with him and you shouldn't have to drop everything when he calls.

5. Abuse- If he is verbally/physically hurting you then a man like that will only lower your self-esteem to a point where your are unable to even love yourself.

Mr. Right should....

1. Love- He should show you, remind you (not daily-be realistic), hold you, let you cry but make you laugh, make you laugh hard enough you'll cry, keep you warm when you feel cold inside. The best part is that he does it without even trying or being asked. He loves you because his eyes show it, because his lips speak it and in his arms you'll feel it. He will be respectful and never hurt you in any form. 

2. Trust- He will let you be a free to follow your dreams. He will fight with you when nobody else believes you can and support you when your losing hope. 

3. Faithful- He might have small white lies, but he will not keep anything from you, he will be loyal to you and will feel compelled to tell you things he even thinks will hurt you. You want a best friend, a lover and then YOUR man.

4. Provide- It isn't necessary that he pays everything, however, he should always be concerned about your well being and try hard everyday to ensure that the two of you are well taken care of.

5. Stay Close- He doesn't need to call you at all hours of the day, but he should at least acknowledge you and see how your are doing or how your day was.

I'm not saying these things will score you the perfect man, but it will give you a guideline of hope and responses of how to gain respect. Don't be to quick to trust or confide, but don't be afraid to be vulnerable at the right times.
The best thing about finding Mr. Right is knowing that you didn't need to try hard or force someone to love you or go from date to date hoping you'll see yourself in a white dress soon; it's the moment when you realized it all fell into place and the person next to you will never be who the last guy was. He will be your present and future who you could never imagine placing you as their last priority or a temporary fix, but the precious jewel that you are.

xoxoxo

yours truly,

V