What MRS RIGHT should possess

 

 Dear Reader:

There is no say as to what Mrs. Right should look like and how she should act. I remember in school we had to look at a jar of jelly beans and we had to think about how many of the red ones were in there and how many white ones there were. Somehow after spilling the jelly beans all over the table a mystery color would should up. It was rare to get that black colored one with an unknown flavor and every kid was always scared to taste it. This is how I see a man's search for a woman.

There are so many fish in the sea, you find the loose and easy girls, the over possessive analytical girls, the ones that are too afraid to be themselves and finally those who are clearly great for you but it's too hard to work for. So, Mrs. Right needs to.....

1. Respect you- A woman who doesn't respect a man will do whatever she pleases, whenever she pleases and care less about anything you will ever have to say about her.
2. Guide & Support you- Everyone has their north star (a goal, a mission , a reason for life), weather it be to work up to that house you want or rebuild a car you dream for. No matter the goal or how ridiculous your north star might sound to her, she should help you get there and support your beliefs.
3. Trust you- If she can't trust you, she will never be a woman of kindness, generosity, love, or sincerity. Everything she does or says to you will be generic and hypothetical only so that she is secure with whatever it is she thinks your doing.
4. Cater to you- I know some woman are going to flip when they read this, but in all honesty, my mom and my grandma taught me to be this way. If dinner is served, serve your boyfriend or husband, he had a bad day at work....give him a massage or listen to his rant and respond don't just say ahhaha yeah okay. Let her go the extra mile. It's a two way street nowadays, don't expect her to be your slave, but know that she possesses these caring aspects because if you're planning to get old with her you want to know she cares enough to see the minor details.
5. Loves you- A woman that truly loves you, I mean really loves you will go to the end of the earth for you. Once you find that woman, don't let her go if you love her too. She will always be by your side and never let go. Be faithful to heart as well as her to yours. 

Remember, nothing is easy and nothing worth having is good enough if you can't fight for it. In other words, it won't be handed to you on a silver platter. You'll have really bad days, you'll argue, you'll fight, you'll go through things that traditional couples will never make it through, but that's what makes it worth the fight. That's what makes it love and that's exactly what makes Mrs Right your Mrs Right. She will stick with you through anything as long as you love her the same. But remember you should have....

  Honesty- First of all, you will never gain a woman's attention by lying to her. The only way you will ever gain and keep her interested is to make sure the first words that come out of your mouth and the things you say to her on the daily basis are both honest and sincere.
 Upkeep- Woman are much more shallow the men, we will judge everything about you. Your nails, hair, smile and everything you say. So, just as much as you want us to look good when we go out with you, keep yourself up. We don't want to be around a guy that looks like he just rolled out of bed just as much as you don't want us to walk out with you in pajamas and uncombed hair.
Loyalty- A woman doesn't want to worry that her man is taking interest in another woman, respect her! Don't check out other woman bluntly in front of her. Although you think she doesn't notice she does. She probably won't say anything to not make a big deal about it, but it makes her feel insecure. You have to make her feel like she's the only and most beautiful woman in the room. Don't engage in friendships with other woman that are obviously inappropriate and misconstrued,  if it makes your woman uncomfortable and you know the things your saying to your friend would upset your woman then you should probably be mindful to those things, because they catch up to you. A woman carries zero tolerence for these things.

Mrs. Right shouldn't have to feel at competition for your love and attention or feel like there's always someone else. Make her feel important and show her how much you care. We women are very tender, push us the wrong way and we will fall apart, but pay attention to the small details and we will remain that mystery color that you so anxiously always want to bite to find out how it taste.

Yours Truly,
xoxoxo
V

No More Drama In My Life!

I have a theory: Couples who constantly argue or find reasons to argue are truly not meant to be. Couples who rarely argue and find simple solutions to minor issues are those who are meant to last. Let me explain!

In a relationship where one individual is unhappy or truly unsatisfied with the relationship, there is always a reason to argue or find problems. There are several examples I can give you. If a man and woman are together and the man is unhappy the women knows that deep down he isn't. What happens in this scenario; is that the womens' insecurities have multiplied because she is well aware that he feels like he can do better. This causes unnecssary arguments, drama and issues. Also, what happens is that the person with the insecurties and the one who feels like they need to work ten times harder to keep the relationship ends up sophicating the other person. In many cases, when you've been sophicated or over analyzed, you cheat or move on. Why? Because if you're already being accused and the other person is convinced it's already happening, then why not do it? They already believe it in their hearts so give them something to complain about.

Advice: If you need to go the extra mile, work harder for attention or beg for attention; then it's not worth your time. If the relationship is true and the other person really cares for you, you wouldn't have to work so hard to keep it going. It's a two player game, you're not in a relationship by yourself.

The Happy Couple: When your able to give each other space, trust each other, be honest with each other, talk about your concerns and not argue and both enjoy each others company; then you know it is a healthy relationship.

You shouldn't be afraid to bring up topics with your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife. You should be able to present the problem or subject with confidence that your other half is going to support what you have to say and respect your opinion. Everyone has their flaws and nobody is perfect. If you can't accept that, then you deserve to be alone. Don't expect someone to be your perfect prince charming or your sexy airbrushed model. The beauty and love is at the heart not at the imperfections. Once you learn to accept that, it will pay off to a much happier relationship.

Advice: Be happy with yourself. Nobody can love someone who is insecure with themselves and won't be able to make you feel any better. If they fell for you it's because you were you, don't try to be someone else and don't try to be perfect, you're not.

Advice: Don't be afraid. If you can't talk to him or her then you'll never be able to be open and honest.

Be honest. Trust Each Other. Be Secure. Discuss Issues (don't argue). Love Hard (you might only get one chance so tell them when you feel it, they'll say it back). Be Spontaneous. Give Space (don't sophicate each other). Talk (you need to really get to know each other). Be Loyal (Karma is a bitch and two can play that game).

I understand that arguments happen and that there will be rough patches on the road, but it's not about having the problems its about how you face them with each other. If you're not willing to fight together to keep it real then you're probably not meant to be together and it's time to evalutate how you really feel about yourself before you try to love someone else.


Yours Truly,

V

xoxo