No More Drama In My Life!

I have a theory: Couples who constantly argue or find reasons to argue are truly not meant to be. Couples who rarely argue and find simple solutions to minor issues are those who are meant to last. Let me explain!

In a relationship where one individual is unhappy or truly unsatisfied with the relationship, there is always a reason to argue or find problems. There are several examples I can give you. If a man and woman are together and the man is unhappy the women knows that deep down he isn't. What happens in this scenario; is that the womens' insecurities have multiplied because she is well aware that he feels like he can do better. This causes unnecssary arguments, drama and issues. Also, what happens is that the person with the insecurties and the one who feels like they need to work ten times harder to keep the relationship ends up sophicating the other person. In many cases, when you've been sophicated or over analyzed, you cheat or move on. Why? Because if you're already being accused and the other person is convinced it's already happening, then why not do it? They already believe it in their hearts so give them something to complain about.

Advice: If you need to go the extra mile, work harder for attention or beg for attention; then it's not worth your time. If the relationship is true and the other person really cares for you, you wouldn't have to work so hard to keep it going. It's a two player game, you're not in a relationship by yourself.

The Happy Couple: When your able to give each other space, trust each other, be honest with each other, talk about your concerns and not argue and both enjoy each others company; then you know it is a healthy relationship.

You shouldn't be afraid to bring up topics with your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife. You should be able to present the problem or subject with confidence that your other half is going to support what you have to say and respect your opinion. Everyone has their flaws and nobody is perfect. If you can't accept that, then you deserve to be alone. Don't expect someone to be your perfect prince charming or your sexy airbrushed model. The beauty and love is at the heart not at the imperfections. Once you learn to accept that, it will pay off to a much happier relationship.

Advice: Be happy with yourself. Nobody can love someone who is insecure with themselves and won't be able to make you feel any better. If they fell for you it's because you were you, don't try to be someone else and don't try to be perfect, you're not.

Advice: Don't be afraid. If you can't talk to him or her then you'll never be able to be open and honest.

Be honest. Trust Each Other. Be Secure. Discuss Issues (don't argue). Love Hard (you might only get one chance so tell them when you feel it, they'll say it back). Be Spontaneous. Give Space (don't sophicate each other). Talk (you need to really get to know each other). Be Loyal (Karma is a bitch and two can play that game).

I understand that arguments happen and that there will be rough patches on the road, but it's not about having the problems its about how you face them with each other. If you're not willing to fight together to keep it real then you're probably not meant to be together and it's time to evalutate how you really feel about yourself before you try to love someone else.


Yours Truly,

V

xoxo