Your Whats Best for Him/Her, but He/She Wants The Person Who Continuously Breaks Their Heart

     It is such an infelicitous feeling when the person you are so into prefers to be with someone you know will not treat them right. This is common with woman, they want to be with the guy who cheated and who in most cases provides a challenge. Being with someone, man or woman, who is much more becoming than someone who is nothing but flawed gives you absolute vulnerability. 

 

Allow me to explain.

I've written a similar blog but this kind of digs deeper.

It is a fight between the good/bad guy. Here's a scenario. 

Guy/Girl A is the Good guy and Guy/Girl B is the "bad" guy.

A is always there for you to wish you a good day, makes you smile when your sad, will do anything for you financially, physically and anything attainable by his or her own will. They never miss a phone call and never keep you waiting for a text or blow you off when they say you'll do something.

B might be M.I.A a whole day and not bother give you a call but shoot you a text instead to say hi. It's not that you can't depend on this person to help you with anything, but this is the person your too afraid to show your true emotions too because your trying so hard to be with him/her. You'll always get cancelled dates but to you it doesn't matter and your still excited for the next one.

This is what I mean about the challenge, man or woman most of the time you need someone to keep it interesting. A just gives it all to you and never keeps you guessing, however, B is simply not interested in only you and has other things going on but you still keep fighting for that love and affection knowing very well your going to fall on your "a**" and get hurt. 

So, reader, your question is why? Why does this person prefer to be with someone who doesn't feel the same about them? I like to believe it has something to do with the, "Always be with someone who loves you more than you'll love them." Good Guy/Girl A can care to the end of this world for you, but you won't open up your arms and let them in because you want that equal love.. they want to feel that happy ever after feeling, even if it means he/she is head over heals for someone who could never treat them the right way.

It is an intriguing idea to most people to love someone who keeps you guessing, men/women feed off of drama. If you don't have that drama you don't have a story. No matter how much someone wants to be insanely happy with someone who loves them, they also want that little mistreatment or beyond interest. Its a reason beyond me, however it is what it is.

My advice to you is to not try and sit there and try to get B to love you and Take A as quick as you can because he/she really cares. And if your A or B, A don't let the person stuck in between bad and good guy use you, be careful... It was probably never about the love to him/her and he/she needed something you can't give him/her and it's not meant to be. If your B, dude wake up because you might be losing a good one and he/she just might find someone 10X better than you and you'll be sitting there wondering, what if?

Your Truly

Xoxox

Viviana