You Think He/She Is "The One," but Your Not As Ready As You Think

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You Want To Settle Down; But You're Not So Ready Yourself

 I am almost certain that many who are fresh out of college and "ready" to start their career, haven't really reached that mental capacity of being able to withstand the pressure of a career. You are sitting at the desk desperately hoping that you've learned enough to actually provide the company with the knowledge you think you've obtained. In most cases, we sell ourselves in the interview and just wing it once we have finally entered into the field.

This is exactly how relationships are played out. You meet an attractive person and tell them everything they want to hear to get you to like them and then the "invisible checklist" is mentally created to determine whether you are a hit it and quit it, hasta la bye bye hook up or a keeper.

Here's the deal:

 You want to make this person yours but the things that you expect from them, aren't things that you possess yet, but they do. For example:

> He/She is obviously ready to be in a serious relationship. They don't party with their friends like they used to, they chill at home instead of having a beer, they are attentive to answering to your calls and messages, and etc.... However, you aren't as relaxed as this person. You think your ready for someone who is like this and want a relationship with them, but guess what? You still club with your friends every weekend, you whether have a beer with the guys instead of hanging with your girl or bringing her along, you wait a few hours or days to reply. Why? Because physically and emotionally you are being selfish of holding on to a relationship your are obviously not ready for and just want someone by your side. In reality, your not ready to committ to him/her at this time and it isn't fair to act like you are.


> I know that you see this person to be your happy ending, but nothing can be forced or rushed if it isn't meant to be... Naturally your just supposed to know .. not think you know.


Yours Truly


V <3