What happen the kind of love that makes your knees weak?

We all yearn for the day when we will find that special someone who can truly and immensely complete us. Over the centuries, the meaning of love has been diminished. Too often as human beings we have taken for granted what it really means to value someone as a person and love them for who they are. The meaning of love has faded and has become this promiscuous word that is thrown around, from relationship to relationship. Altogether we have given up on love and just started to settle for less or not enough.


Before my grandparents time, most marriages were arranged and somehow that was okay. I believe arranged marriages functioned because after these two people were forced to be together, they had the time to get to know each other and their similarities. Somehow, they would find a reason for happiness. Not saying that in every situation then is true, however, they made it work. 


Now, a relationship like my Grandparents in Puerto Rico, they met and fell in love. The beauty of their love is that they met in a time where things weren't perfect. They both shared their flaws and they were accepted. Arguments and disagreements didn't result in a divorce, it resulted into a stronger love because they had the patience to work through things. 


In our day in age, being with one person for the rest of your life seems to be an outrageous idea. Its sad really, because to have sex with one person and to be committed to loving one person through thick and thin is much harder than giving up and walking away; even if it means you ignore the way the person makes you feel inside. What happen to the feeling where your stomach starts turning when you see each other, the excitement of hearing his/her voice on the phone, the anticipation of spending another day together and the love that makes your knees go weak and your eyes tear? We've blocked love, we don't let it happen anymore because we're scared. 


We're afraid of needing someone, depending on someone and getting used to that person being around us all the time; that we've lost sight of the things that make love happen. Get to know everything about each other, learn what they hate and love, hold them when they are at their worse, celebrate with them when their at their absolute best and finally let them be there for you. If you don't make time for that person and avoid everything that will cause you to feel anything remotely close to love; guess what, you'll never feel love.


Some have been hurt, lied to and betrayed; but the truth is, that was not love. If someone had the decency to hurt you, to keep a lie from you and take advantage of your heart; that isn't someone who ever loved you to begin with. You need to open up your heart and allow that 19th Century love feeling back into reality, it isn't fiction and it isn't always the same for someone.


Love happens at different ages, random moments you might never expect; it hits you when your guard is down and it tests you more than life can ever imagine. That's the beauty of love. To grasp this love is what your best bet is, don't let it slip through your fingers! Sink into the quick sand and take a risk. You don't ever wanna let go of love, because when you figured out what love really was when it doesn't work out with someone else, love won't want you back. 


You do things right, open your heart and appreciate the person your with and learn to love everything about them, I can guarantee you that the weak in the knees, you can barely speak feeling will hit you so unexpectedly that your heart almost feels like it hurts.


Yours Truly,
Xoxoxoxo
Viviana