Jealousy Is A Disease; GET WELL SOON!

Jealousy Means No Trust, No Trust Means No Relationship

 I've heard almost every excuse of a jealous person, I've been a jealous person in my past and I've seen what jealousy can do to a relationship. The pain almost becomes unbearable and the excuses for jealousy grow larger and larger that in a way, it consumes you and everything you stand for. There is a limit to jealousy and a limit to how you approach it.

I believe there are many approaches to jealousy and many different ways to pinpoint when enough is enough. Here are a few points that I'd like to make clear.

1. He/She tells you "It hurts to imagine you with anyone else," well, if he/she doesn't want to see that happen then reminding you constantly of his/her insecurities will drive the person to exactly that, if the persistence becomes overbearing. Your response should clearly be that in most obvious ways your already theirs, so not trusting you enough to believe that can escalate to more serious issues.
2. He/she has the password to everything and checks your phone constantly or screens your calls. First of all, if the person hasn't given you a reason to not trust him/her, STAY OUT! I cannot stress how much this absolutely irritates me. If you want to see something ask, but there is no more of an obsessive act then that. If they have to look through your things to make sure your "faithful" someone needs to seriously rethink the relationship.
3. Restricts you from dressing a certain way or talking to certain people. Look, if they are secure with the relationship it should NOT be an issue. If you look "too sexy" one day then they should be happy to be holding you in their arms and be proud.... If your prohibited from talking to some family or friends then obviously someone is becoming way to controlling.
4. Abusive jealousy, if someone hits you.. he/she doesn't honestly love you! There is no reason in this world why abuse should be an expression of love nor jealousy. Jealousy is not an excuse to be abusive. Abuse is unacceptable, especially because someone just doesn't trust you.

There are several different examples of jealousy and why every form of it is unacceptable. Your relationship will fail or you will be miserable for a very long time. Small jealousy like, you saw an attractive person talking to your guy/girl and you mention to your guy/girl that you didn't feel comfortable with it because there was some flirting , then okay... but if it's friendly conversation then relax. Be comfortable in your own skin and trust the person you are with. If you think someone is going to cheat on you, it will be done regardless if your jealous actions take place or not. You can't stop a cheater but you can be wise and secure with yourself and if you have to move on then you move on. 

Yours Truly

Xoxo

Vivian