1. You just started dating- You just started dating not even a month yet and have already considered each other boyfriend/girlfriend. GIVE IT TIME, geez what's the rush. Find out each others intentions obviously, but don't do that.
2. Your a couple for only a few months- and you've already started saying I love You, talking about marriage and names for future kids, this would really send me the other way, so I'm sure many other people do.. That scares people.
3. Moved in with each other not knowing each other for more than a year- Truth is, that is not enough time to know someone and your in for a treat. If you thought you knew someone, you don't until you've lived with them. You'll find out what you dislike about the person and just cant bear with.
4. Your married in a year- What's the rush to the alter? Sometimes this is a problem more with the ladies, giving the man hints of rings at jewelery stores and worse is when given an ultimatum, those usually end in divorce.
What's my point?
My point is, PLEASE get to know the person really well before you decide to commit. It might seem all peachy now, but make sure you've seen them at their worse, accept them at their ugliest, understand their bad habits, accept their flaws, and make them your best friend first. If you have found someone that you can talk to, not hide any secrets, never afraid to approach them and you know they won't judge you for your mistakes or support all your ideas.. than you can make it serious. Get to know the little things, like an unusual birth mark or one leg longer than the other. LOL , just take it one day at a time and you'll know when the timing is right.
Don't take your sweet time either, don't date someone for a year and still consider them just someone your talking to, I think by than you might need some kind of Title. Don't hold on to anything for too long, because the person waiting, isn't going to wait forever.
Yours Truly
XOXOXOX
Vivian
You're funny w/the one leg shorter thing Lmbo, but FYI one side of your body is a lil shorter than the other so if some1 has an issue w/that they might as well go live with monks in Tibet. Then they'll never have to worry about a flaw like that cuz the opposite sex will probably not be there lol. Good strong point on the best friend tag before u jump into the title of bf/gf. Your partner should ultimately be your best, if not, bestest friend. Rarely are friendships established in most relationships & no matter how long they accumulate they falter, cuz a strong base is never established. Not sayin all relationships work even w/this but if it doesn't work out @ least u can fall back on being friends....possibly lol. But a good friendship can turn into the best love life, but never rush yourself into the "title" zone. Divorce rates are @ an all time high & its sad cuz the sacred celebration of matrimony is being tarnished by those who fail to wait & be patient. In the beginning its always sweet, lovey dovey, superficial, cuz your representative is @ an all time marketing campaign. Especially in men ladies listen carefully. Guys ultimate goal is to get in your vicky secrets so we care for the moment, open u up, break ya guard a lil, hit a few times, break ya guard even more, but once that's accomplished...its accomplished. Anything after that is fair game; like us, love us, hate us, its w/e we've already got the prize. Make us wait ladies. If you're worth having sexually then let us earn that treasure. A real man will respect u & wait cuz he cares about u as a person & not a notch on his belt. Make'em suffer if he's worthy to handle task, he becomes a good friend u can rely on, all around good person, not perfect but is up front, then u may have found a gold medal. Not a gold metal that eventually tarnishes years later.
ReplyDeleteThanks Justin,
ReplyDeleteThat is exactly my point. :)