:Now that you've watched the trailer to the upcoming movie; you can see I'm not the only person who thinks it doesn't work: :)
Ladies and Gentleman,
It is to my utmost discretion to absolutely avoid any type of circumstance that will risk the weaknesses of the heart. Although it may seem like a good idea at the moment to have "benefits" without the commitment, someone eventually is going to fall for the other person. It is natural that we as human beings start to develop feelings for someone, but when your at the edge between losing the company of the person who has made you feel so great for a long while, it becomes difficult to speak the truth.
First of all, when a sexual relationship is established and its clear that nobody wants a relationship or has mentioned looking for a relationship, you just learn to enjoy each others company and hope that it doesn't end in disaster. So, when its just about sex, let it be just about sex. Don't go out on dates, worry about each others feelings, meet the families, or lead the other person to thinking that you actually care. A "booty call" is what your supposed to be, leave it at that.
Now, if it just so happen that you were searching for only "sex" but then realize that being a relationship with this person is something you would really like to happen, my suggestion to you is to say something. Be careful that you don't react to your feelings to soon, you could scare the other person depending on your approach. Just say, "I've really started to enjoy your company and I think we should take our relationship to the next level and see how that works out," or something along those lines.
My advice to you reader: The most you can ever do is be you, and if you know you, you know what the extremity of your limits are. So, if you think your heart will mix up into the depth of things, "friends with benefits" isn't going to work. In fact, it never works. Its either one or both people end up getting hurt or the relationship will become something bigger, either way it doesn't work.
Just make it clear from the beginning what your looking for, instead of playing hide and seek with your heart and emotions.
Yours Truly,
xoxoxo
Vivian
First of all, when a sexual relationship is established and its clear that nobody wants a relationship or has mentioned looking for a relationship, you just learn to enjoy each others company and hope that it doesn't end in disaster. So, when its just about sex, let it be just about sex. Don't go out on dates, worry about each others feelings, meet the families, or lead the other person to thinking that you actually care. A "booty call" is what your supposed to be, leave it at that.
Now, if it just so happen that you were searching for only "sex" but then realize that being a relationship with this person is something you would really like to happen, my suggestion to you is to say something. Be careful that you don't react to your feelings to soon, you could scare the other person depending on your approach. Just say, "I've really started to enjoy your company and I think we should take our relationship to the next level and see how that works out," or something along those lines.
My advice to you reader: The most you can ever do is be you, and if you know you, you know what the extremity of your limits are. So, if you think your heart will mix up into the depth of things, "friends with benefits" isn't going to work. In fact, it never works. Its either one or both people end up getting hurt or the relationship will become something bigger, either way it doesn't work.
Just make it clear from the beginning what your looking for, instead of playing hide and seek with your heart and emotions.
Yours Truly,
xoxoxo
Vivian
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