You Are Your Biggest Obstacle

Many people I know are always complaining about how they can't find love.
Majority of the time, its because they are so caught up in trying to find something wrong in the person...
They lose sight of what is really important.

Why?

Why are people so focused on finding the negative is someone instead of  learning to love someone for who they are? Simple, misery loves company. 

                     However, I have this to say.... This isn't a fairy tale, your not going to have prince charming on a horse save you from your evil stepmother, your girlfriend isn't going to be your slave and cater to every need, and most definitely do not expect perfection.

Insecurities, jealousy and respect has been words of value that have been misconstrued and vanished from importance. People do become insecure with their own bodies and appearance. People do have some kind of protective instincts towards the person they care about, and will get jealous once in a while. Respect is hard to come by nowadays..its unfortunate.. but if you want it.. give it!

Here's the problem:

Over analyzing situations- Why do people make things a big deal when they really aren't? Thinking they already know whats going on and they never really did and don't.

Over jealous- Jealousy can get really petty and usually drives the other person to cheat a lot quicker, give trust and i'm almost certain you'll have a more faithful partner.

Too Insecure-  So insecure you spend hours trying to get ready or put on an act to impress someone, truth is: if someone is going to love you, its for you. It's good to look nice but they'll have to see you at your worse.. eventually.

Afraid- Quit being scared to live life, do spontaneous things, go on adventures and live on the edge. If your always stuck inside ..your not giving yourself the option of getting to know someone.

In one lump sum, When your picking and pricking, yelling and screaming, crying and sad, afraid and hidden; truth is, your pushing away any good chance of happiness for yourself.. Its time to let things just be..

When you keep digging in to deep, you'll find things you don't like... Most likely, you'll let all those things consume your opinion on someone .. you learn to live off the drama and forget to gain love. Stop being so uptight and just learn to love and be you. 

This is my blunt, forward and truthful opinion

Yours Truly,

XOXOXO

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