She's Cheating on You Because Your Too Good/Nice

Truth Is: Woman Like  A Challenge

Dear Good Guys:

      For many years I have heard this be a constant reminder to men to not be nice at all. I'd like to say that the reason you are being cheated is on; is because your being too nice. Don't get me wrong, its a great quality to be a nice guy, but don't be "overnice." When a woman knows she can have you, can pull the strings and do whatever she wants, its exactly what she will do. Reason being, she knows that you'll be right there even if she did wrong. I'd say your choosing the wrong girls and you simply need to look beyond beauty, and find someone who can sincerely treat you the way you should be treated, but....

If the problem is your too good/nice, I say get a backbone and be a jerk. Yes, be a jerk to the girl. Do not be an abusive "asshole," but be the guy she has to look for to get a date. 

Problem #1  You make yourself too available: She calls you at random times to pour her heart out and you never miss her call, she asks you to go do stuff for her and you do it, she can come see you whenever she wants and your always going to be there...Finally, she tells you about her MONEY problems and you fix them. (Gold-digger)

      Solution: Don't always worry about her calling you or how she is feeling, go out with your boys and live your life. It doesn't always have to be about her. However, if she doesn't do it often and she wants to talk, give her a few minutes to talk, but don't try to be her dad and solve the issues of her world.

Don't always be at her service, she has to legs and two feet; let her do it for herself

Don't have such an open door policy, your not married, she doesn't have to be all over you.

Problem #2 She continues to lie to you and you forgive her: Don't be stupid, she is pulling your strings because she knows exactly how to make her puppet talk. 

      

Problem #3 She never picks up your calls, but will text you: She's out doing things she doesn't want you to hear, and you still accept the "I Miss You" texts.

I'm not going into all of the signs, but I will tell you this. It is okay to be nice, because we like that a man is able to listen to us when we want to rant and be there for us intimately, emotionally and can joke around with us to just have fun. I'm not saying to be a complete jerk either, don't be the guy that has sex with the girl and not call the next day. 

I'm simply saying not to make it all about her, when you are able to make your other life priorities important,besides her. She'll be crawling for your attention and care much more. It is sad, but true.  But, if she cheats move one.  

Every woman is different, and there might be other reasons why she cheated, but good guys always finish last. 

My verdict. 

Felt like I left something out?! Tell me about it

xoxoxo 

Yours Truly

Vivian