"People always say its what is in the inside that counts. Is that why men just want go inside no matter the appearance"
Although this was said jokingly, this is how most women feel. I can't speak too much on behalf of men on this subject, but what do we look for in someone, if no matter what, we'll always find imperfection?
So, no matter what happens, we all eventually want to have Mr./Mrs Right sitting next to us when we get old. Someone you know will always love you and fight through the struggles of life together. The truth is, nobody is perfect.
So what do we look for? Ladies this is what I think we should look for:
1. Sincerity - You want someone who is going to be able to be sincere when you are at your at your best/worse. Don't stay with someone who doesn't want to be there for you. For example, we see this in movies: If your dog is being put to sleep, maybe he should be there with you.
2. Genuine - Look for someone who is free from pretense and hypocrisy. Example: if he says he won't lie to you and does.
3. Patience - Someone who doesn't rush you into things. Example: Sex
4. Acceptance - He doesn't try to change you or if your a mother, accepts that have you kids.
If he's sexy and possesses all of these qualities, that's a plus. However, there is many other things you should pay attention to. Or at least, I would. Make sure he's a clean person. Filthy men who don't take care of their own bodies or houses is a big no no. If you want a relationship, learn about his family, ask questions and get to know him. You might and will find things about him you don't like. Ladies, do not be over analytical about the little things that could obviously change if a potential relationship were to escalate. Although, if you see red flags that pertain to screaming, abuse or anything that shows he will not treat you right. RUN! Especially, extreme jealousy. Please don't look back. He is not going to change.
Ladies look for someone who can truly love you for you and nothing else.
I really don't know what men look for... So, At this point I'll take it for a whirl:
1. Be a Lady - I don't think men are looking for a ghetto, filthy mouthed, promiscuously dressed individual. He wants someone he can introduce to his mom and be proud to call his girl
2. Jealousy - Don't question him about everything, there is nothing a man hates more than feeling controlled by a woman.
3. Support - They want someone to be supportive of their lives, dream or ideas. Don't put them down.
I don't know anything else a man wants, I think if I did , I wouldn't be single. Hahaha
So, GENTLEMAN please help me out with this for our lady readers, what does a man look for in a woman to make it official? If the inside is what counts then what is it woman are doing wrong?
Yours Truly,
XoXo
Vivian
Can't speak for everyday but here we go:
ReplyDelete1. Spontaneous- let's just do something random one day, any day. Nothing planned or scripted. Like sky diving, rock climbing, show up to my place @ 1am in a trench coat & some sexy ass lingerie underneath, or nothing @ all. Just be spontaneous. Not all the time but every blue moon to surprise us ladies. Be someone different on day aka role play. Tell me u want to f&@k me in the empty aisle in the grocery store in aisle 9 lol. Spontaneity goes a long way for guys, well me especially.
2. Don't look thru my phone! A real man, honest man has nothing to hide. If we're grown let's act like it. Cuz whatever you're looking for you may find, & it may not be anything of relevance but you'll blow it outta proportion any way. The old saying goes curiosity killed the cat, & relationships. Now I'm not blaming u if u suspected something but don't be like tryin to play, or find, games on my phone while really lookin @ pics, or text messages for evidence of slipping up. Ppl are gonna do what they want anyway, but stay out of my phone unless u need to make an emergency phone call & ur battery is dead on your phone.
3. A woman with class, but a freak in bed...self explanatory
4. A woman that can hold her own with or w/o me. Independence is beyond sexy in any woman. A relationship should be 50/50. I help u u help me, we bring it together, & build an empire. That whole a man should be head of the house hold, make all the $, & the wife should stay @ home & take care of the kids is barbaric & cliche in thought. If u make more than me kool, do u. Whatever I make we'll share regardless cuz that's what 50/50 is. U do your share & I'll do mine, we'll compliment each other in the long run.
4. Not high maintenance. Have some class but don't be stuck up bout yoself especially if your a PF double B ( Pretty face broke B!+@h) . Wrestle w/us boy on occasion be into sports, or show some interest in my likes. Not sayin u gotta be in2 everything I do but as V said it before...don't down me & what I'm into. As long as it @ causing problems to our relationship support ya boy.
5. I gotta say this & I don't mean to offend any1 but...ladies u gotta challenge ya I.Q. & put ya brain game to the test. Women who don't will not be in relationships, happy relationships, long. I PROMISE YOU! This is important to me & every man out there. Now if you're not gettin the pleasure then that's one thing, but if I'm makin u climb the walls I'm expecting the same in return :) . I'm just saying.
6. Has mother like qualities. If I'm a be w/u in the long run & we gone have kids I would like to see if u have the redeeming qualities of someone who could bare my children, & help me raise a family.
7. Confidence. Not stuck up but owning your sexy.
8. Last but not least... don't nag me. I hate a nagging ass woman, the relationship would be dead before it even lived. Dont nag me or any man for that matter. Talk to me like a human being but don't be all in my ear, bumping off @ the gums, getting on my nerves. To expand you will be alone fast, or with some other dude who will handle your ass, & not tolerate u talking @ all.
This is my list & not in any particular order, but this is stuff that mattered to me today.